Most of us have several friends, but we often talk about one or two people as “best” friends forever. BFF. Best friends are extra, extra special. They’re people you can tell your secrets to, and you know they won’t repeat them to others. They won’t blab. You trust them. They’re people who love you if you’re having a bad day, or you’re in a crabby mood, or you don’t understand something or don’t know how to do something. They never make you feel dumb, stupid or not good enough. They never make fun of you. In fact, they’re like your personal cheerleader, shouting “you can do it.” They aren’t jealous.
They’re loyal to you. They don’t talk behind your back. They don’t say one thing to your face, but something different to other people. You can depend on them. They are never a fair weather friend.
Another key quality of best friends is that they listen to you, no matter what. And they don’t judge you. They might give you advice or they might warn you if they think you’re not being smart about something. They might judge your actions—what you’re planning to do or say or something you did do or said but they don’t judge you.
You laugh and cry with this person. Nobody understands you better than a best friend.
Think time
Who’s your best friend? How did you meet that person? Why is he or she your best friend? Why are you their best friend? Do you have the best friend qualities listed above?
4 Responses
I’ve had several ‘best friends’ in my life…when I was in grade school, when I was in high school and college, and now that I’m older. Each one was special to me in that time and place, and although we still keep in touch, we’ve grown away from each other. But I can still call any of them on the phone, and we start gabbing like we’ve never been apart.
I’ve also known people who I thought were going to be my best friends, but then I realized that they weren’t who I thought they were because they talked about my other friends behind their backs. I didn’t think that was very nice, so I drew away from them.
Dear Anonymous,
You are indeed lucky to have good friends throughout your life. This tells me that you were/are a good friend to them. You are also wise to realize true friends don’t speak badly about mutual friends when those friends aren’t present. Real friends defend the friend being discussed when that person isn’t present.
CeCe
My best friend is Raymond. We met at school, but also play Fortnite together. He has been my friend since 2nd grade and my best friend since 3rd grade. We’re best friends because we like the same things and we laugh and joke.
Dear LJL,
Raymond is a lucky guy and so are you. I hope you will be BFFs, best friends forever!!! There’s a saying that laughter is the best medicine. It means laughter is good for you. I think there’s nothing better than a big belly laugh with a best friend.
CeCe